3 Ways to Unleash Your Inner-Expert
There are two types of people in this world: those that set their own intentions and those that let others set them for you.
When it comes to health and wellness success allowing others to set your intentions for you is a call for disaster. Many people have a sense of what they want to accomplish when it comes to their own health and wellness and then fall into the “expert trap” by seeking out the professionals to help them along the way. What often happens is they meet with the experts wanting to access their vast knowledge and resources to reach their goals and after meeting with the experts – their goals change.
They are no longer seeking support for their own initiatives but have adopted the expert’s plan for them, often changing their original goals or reasons for wanting to seek help in the first place. This is called “the Expert Trap”. This occurs when we have a sense of what we want to accomplish and then after meeting with an expert we leave with different intentions and goals that we did not establish for ourselves. In short, we allowed the expert to set our intentions for us.
When this happens our capacity for success diminishes because we are no longer seeking to accomplish our own innate goals, but the goals that others have designed for us. This leads to frustration over the process, confusion over what we are seeking to accomplish, and inconsistency in the results. It is possible to get results following the lead of an expert, but are they the results you wanted and can sustain?
The truth is this – you don’t need any experts to help you identify what your health and wellness goals or desire should be. The experts exist to help you reach your goals once determined, not to set your goals for you. A better strategy may be to engage your inner-expert to determine your goals and then seek out the experts that will support your goals not usurp them.
If you have a habit of falling for the expert trap, here are a few tips to unleash your inner-expert:
1. Stop everything you are doing that is not working. There is no reason to keep doing anything towards your health and wellness that you do not like, understand, or can sustain. If you are unhappy with a process or program or diet or whatever, just stop doing it. Chances are that is your inner-expert trying to speak to you about what you should not be focusing on.
2. Engage in self-directed wellness micro-activities to allow your inner-expert to begin to speak. Health and Wellness often is more of an exploration than it is a prescription. Engaging with self-directed wellness micro-activities allows you to naturally gravitate towards a wellness pathway that works for you. As you engage in these activities you will be drawn to those areas of focus that naturally meet your needs in this moment. Your inner-expert will begin to push you towards the areas of need that are most urgent and most sustainable.
3. Listen and Respond to Your Inner-Expert. Once you learn to recognize the voice and influence of your inner-expert you will be able to respond in a way that is appropriate for your success. Responding to these needs will feel empowering. Many times we don’t experience the wellness success we hoped for because we are responding to a need that isn’t identified by our inner-expert but by some other influence. When this happens we get frustrated and the results become unsustainable because we don’t feel the change or sense that our actual needs are being met.
Unleashing your inner-expert is the most important first step you can take on your wellness journey. Do you know the voice and influence of your inner-expert? How has it driven you to wellness success? How has ignoring your inner-expert affected your wellness success?
We would love to hear from all of you about this idea. Are there any inner-experts out there that can relate? Anyone out there fallen for the expert trap?
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